Forgiveness is HARD

In Matthew 18:21-35, Jesus admonishes Peter that is it not enough to forgive someone 7 times, but rather 77 times. These days, we tend to glibly talk about forgiveness, but we forget just how hard it can be to forgive. Especially when the wrong is not a small thing, like stepping on one's toes, but something life-changing. The rest of the world has NOT forgotten

"There is a distinction between making the decision to forgive - which we call decisional forgiveness - and actually forgiving someone - emotional forgiveness - which takes longer," says Professor Macaskill.

Often people say they've forgiven but will never forget. Some might argue that's not really forgiveness, but rather the act of drawing a line under an event.

"That's confirmation that they still don't really trust the person. They are always recalling how they were treated before."